Sette Domande (Seven Questions)

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What to read? What to read?

Another round of questions from my generous reader:

1. If women appreciate the male ass why aren't more pictures of males shown?

While I agree that women like seeing a man's ass, I think that the majority of viewers are still men, and some women, who prefer the allure of a female. Most men seem awkward in photos to me. Cu-Cu does a great job of posting tons of men once in awhile.

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2. What about spanking and clothes? Obviously panties play a major role, but what about other aspects of clothing? Full skirts? Sexy under garments? Pants or jeans? Naturally these are matters of individual preference, but does the spanked woman think about this much?

Oh, those panties! What else? I like little skirts, they are just too sexy. Tight shorts and pants are cute, but impractical when you get to the removal part. Lingerie is wonderful for special occasions. I personally can't make myself do the garters and high heels, but it looks great in photos. Pajamas are more my style. And yes, we think about it constantly, especially about how we are going to feel when it's slowly peeled away.

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3. It seems apparent that most women who are spanked appreciate the beauty of the female form. Do you think that most of them have lesbian or bisexual inclinations in contrast to women who aren't spanked?

While it might be true that some of them have lesbian feelings, I don't think that's what's going on with the majority of women. If they have a vivid imagination, they are visualizing themselves in those circumstances. I personally click away from all those girl-on-girl spanking things, they feel ridiculous and fake to me.

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4. What gives you pleasure about others anonymously viewing your ass?

This is complicated for me. I have always been timid and very modest, still can't comfortably use a communal shower. I got over some of my shyness at Burning Man, where humans are accepted just as they are. I'm an amateur photographer and I always look at photos and think "how can I do that?" So I started thinking that I could take some decent photos of myself (through Ben's hands).

It is beyond my comprehension (and that's probably a good thing) that there are so many people that have seen me naked. I am careful that my full face doesn't show. Can you imagine being recognized in public?--holy shmoly--I would die. Other than that, I am immensely proud of the photos. I like that I can show the world that a regular person can do this.

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5. How does one wrangle invitations to read spanking blogs that are only for those invited?

I would love to know the answer to this question. I haven't been in this blogging world very long. Since you don't know their email, maybe try writing to a blogger who has it as one of the blogs in their blog roll and begging for a contact, but somehow I doubt it would work.

Going private seems to be a very limiting move. I'm not sure what they get out of writing for 10 or 12 people. There are people with whom I used to communicate almost daily, then they suddenly disappeared. It feels like losing an arm. If you're out there, reading this, please send me an invite or at least a message that you are alright.

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6. Is there any way to know if a person that you happen to meet is interested in spanking? I mean are there any telltale signs to look for? Are there any subtle ways of questioning or commenting that wouldn't be taken in a negative way?

I'm not the expert in this, but it seems that you could get two very different responses to a casual spanking reference. The first is the extrovert, up for anything, who would laugh and offer you a playful swat right then and there. The other response, the closet spanko, would blush deeply, stutter, and try to change the subject. That's the person who has it hidden deep in their soul.

I don't have any good ideas for approaching the subject with a new person. Maybe the readers will help with some ideas.

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7. Do you think those who spank and those who are spanked should switch roles at least once to experience some measure of how it feels?

I've been trying to convince Ben of this for a long time. He is adamant that it will never happen. It's just logical that a top should know the difference between a thud and sting, the right sizzle spot and the danger areas. I'm not sure you could demonstrate the psychological side of it to someone who is not naturally a bottom though.

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